You might think that girls have it easy when they want to hook up or have a one night stand, but the truth is that they often face just as many issues as guys do when they want to hook up. Sure, it’s easier for her to find someone to hook up with, but she may have all sorts of hang ups and insecurities that make it difficult for her to hit the scene. Knowing what to do when the girl you’re interested in is self-conscious will help you treat all of the women that you hook up with better and it can definitely improve your game with confident women, too.
Make Her Feel at Ease
“Make her comfortable as much as you can”
It’s important to make a self-conscious girl feel good about herself, and she can’t do that if she isn’t comfortable. You need to be able to make her feel at ease with you and with herself so that she will open up to you and be more confident. Make sure that she is relaxed and comfortable whenever you talk to her. Go out of your way to do the things that she likes and make sure that you do not bring up any uncomfortable subjects. It may be more difficult to hook up with a girl who is self-conscious, but if you know how to treat her right then it should never be too difficult. Just make her as comfortable as possible so nerves don’t get to her too badly.
Don’t Make Any Negative Comments
Negativity is an easy way to seriously upset a self-conscious girl, so you should definitely avoid it at all costs. You might say something in utter innocence but have it wind up upsetting her anyway. You have to be careful about what you say. Don’t insult other women while you are with her, because she may think it has to do with her even if it doesn’t. Focus more on the positive aspects of what you are experiencing and try to be more cheery than you might normally be. This might not be easy, but it can make things a lot easier so its definitely worth giving it a shot.
Lay Heavy on the Compliments
“Compliments makes her feel good”
Obviously a woman who is self-conscious is going to be very conscious about her appearance. She may have certain hang-ups or things that she does not like about herself. Compliment her on everything you can think about, because it might just be something she really hates about herself. Don’t do it in a way that makes it seem like you’re just trying to butter her up. Be as genuine as you possibly can and come up with new compliments to give her all the time so you don’t ever repeat yourself too often. Compliments are going to be the best way to make a self-conscious girl more comfortable with herself and the entire process of hooking up, so they will definitely be your most valuable asset when you want to get with her.