You’ve had a great conversation with her all night. She seems super into you, and you know you’re into her. But when the night winds down and everybody is getting ready to go home, she doesn’t want to hook up with you, and you end up parting ways. This can be a serious downer for you, especially if you thought things were going well. There are usually some very good reasons why you don’t get to hook up with a woman at the end of the conversation or at the end of the night. Knowing how to recognize the possible signs will help you be more successful in the future.
You Made Her Uncomfortable
“If she is not comfortable, she won’t go with you”
Obviously, making a woman uncomfortable is not going to get you into her bed. Women can sometimes be very good at hiding when they are uncomfortable or creeped out, unfortunately for guys who want to hook up with them. Knowing how to spot signs that she’s uncomfortable will help you move on so you don’t waste your time. If she seems to have trouble meeting your eyes or if she seems impatient, these are usually fairly good signs that she is uncomfortable and wants to move on. Sometimes she might just be fidgety or too quiet. While these might be signs of nervousness, it can also be indicators that you are making her uncomfortable. It’s better to find a woman that you have better chemistry with anyway.
You Were Pushing Too Hard
You might not be making her uncomfortable, but maybe you are pushing things too far too quickly for her liking. Being aggressive and direct is usually a positive thing, but sometimes it can have the opposite effect of what you want. If you’re too aggressive you may make her unwilling to go to bed with you, even if she had planned on doing so beforehand. Don’t push her too early on to do something she might not be ready to do. Be more casual about the whole process and give her time to make a decision on what she wants to do, and don’t mention taking her home until you’re sure that you have definitely snagged her attention. This way you won’t wind up being disappointed.
It Just Didn’t Work Out
“She is not impressed”
Sometimes things seem to be going just peachy, but she still doesn’t want to go have a one night stand with you at the end of the night. Obviously, this can be incredibly frustrating. Sometimes there is nothing that you did wrong or nothing that you could have done differently. She may just not have been ready to go to bed with someone that night, or perhaps something else came up. Either way, it’s best to move on quickly from these kinds of rejections. There will always be someone else you can hook up with, so don’t focus too much on the times when it just does not work out. Look forward to all the women you can hook up with in the future instead.